Well...so much for blogging every week!! Maybe I should set my goal for once a month..ha! We just enjoyed a week of camping at the lake with the whole family...parents, in-laws, and my brother's family. We had a great time. After returning home, I just realized that I only have a little over one week of summer break before I go back to work with inservice and getting my room ready for my new class! Where did my summer go? At least time is passing quickly now. I'm sure it will seem to slow way down when we get closer to a referral.
Since this blog is mainly set up to document our adoption journey, I wanted to share some thoughts about stepping out on faith. That's what we did with this adoption. We knew we wanted and needed to adopt again, but didn't know how it would be possible. We just took that first step and had faith that it would happen. Since then, God has proven to us that he is in charge and we give him the thanks. Lately we have talked to several people that wanted to adopt, but didn't know if they could afford it. So for those that have thought about adoption, but have been discouraged by the cost, I want to share a little of our story. After Zion came home, I knew that I wanted to adopt again someday. It didn't take too much to convince Robert. His only concern was the financial side of it. Although we have the money to care for a third child, the $25,000 - $30,000 that it will take to bring that child home was really scary to us. We just did a lot of praying and discussing the possibility. After about two years, we decided to go for it. We had no idea where the money would come from, but had faith that if it was meant to be God would provide. We knew it would take a lot of hard work on our part. We immediately begin doing various fundraisers. I kept a record of every dime that we raised, saved, or was donated to us. I also kept track of all the money that we spent. Five months into our process, I sat down and added both lists. The money we spent was within $20 of what we had raised!!! Somehow, we managed to raise over 7 thousand dollars. That same week, we needed to mail our agency $250 and we received a donation a couple of days before mailing it for exactly $250. We are still a long way from having enough money; but somehow, every time we needed the money it was there. We are now 8 months into our adoption and have managed to raise enough to pay for the next step in the process. We are still a little concerned about where the rest of the funds will come from, but we are working hard and have several more fundraisers planned. We have had so many people help us by volunteering at our fundraisers, donating items for our yard sale, donating money, etc. We are grateful to many people, but most of all to God. With him all things are possible! So, if you are considering adoption, please don't let the money stand in your way. Where there is a will...There is a way!!
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Saturday, July 7, 2007
Thoughts on Waiting...
Hopefully now that summer school is over, I'll be able to keep my blog updated. I had every intention of posting at least once a week.
This was an exciting week for our adoption agency and all the waiting families. There were several referrals of boys and girls this week. I caught myself trying to count how many families were waiting for referrals, how many received them, and where we could possible be on the "list". I suddenly realized that I was doing all of this in vain. It doesn't matter if we are #1 or #100. Our time will come and it will be the perfect time. For those of you that don't know, we have a lot of experience with waiting. One thing I've learned about waiting for a child...you can accept the dreaded wait and move forward and make the most of everyday or you can whine, whimper, and live in your misery (which is what I did during our first adoption). Either way...your child will come to you at the right time. I will share our story of how I know that with those of you currently in the process of "waiting". Before Zion came home we were in the process to adopt a baby girl from Guatemala. One of the reasons we chose Guatemala was the quick process..ha! We didn't have to wait but for a few short months for a referral of a one week old beautiful baby girl. The long wait came after we saw that precious picture and accepted her into our hearts as OUR DAUGHTER. We were hoping to have her home around 6 months old. We received monthly updates and pictures for the next 16 months! We hit one bump in the road after another. Looking back we know that was God's way of telling us we were not the right family for her. We watched her grow and change through these updates and pictures. It was terribly agonizing and hard. I traveled to Guatemala to visit her when she was 16 months old. I spent a few days with the sweetest most beautiful baby girl that I had ever seen. The hardest thing I have ever done, was walk away from that orphanage empty handed and broken hearted, not knowing if I would ever be back. We were unable to finish this adoption. Even though our hearts still hurt and I think of her daily, God had another plan for my family and for this precious little girl that we loved dearly. If her adoption process would have went according to our plan we would not have Zion today. We would have never started the process for a child from Korea. I can't imagine our lives without him and can't fathom the blessing we would have missed. We went through some hard times, but good things came from it. We have more faith, more patience, more understanding for things beyond our control, and the most amazing 4 year old son!! If the timing would have been different by 1 week, 1 month, or even 1 year, we wouldn't have the son that was meant to be ours. The timing was perfect even if we couldn't see it! I spent those 16 months in misery...trying to do things MY way and take control of something that I had no control over, which made me more miserable.
This time around, I can honestly say that the wait may not be easier, (and I'm sure I'll catch myself whining and complaining a little) but I won't dwell on the time it takes to bring my child home but rather make the most out of the time that it is taking for God to send us the child we are meant to have. I will play a little more with my children, spend more time with my husband, and pray for our future daughter during the next few months as we wait for him to reveal his plan to us. As I've said before the scripture at the top of this blog has been and hopefully will continue to keep me focused.
I don't want to sound like I am preaching, but I know a lot of families that are struggling with waiting and thought this might be of some help to them. It was always helpful to me to know that I was not alone and others could understand what we were experiencing. The ups and downs of adoption can only truly be understood by someone that has been there.
On a lighter note...the boys and I have been spending a lot of time at the pool while Daddy is working. Parker is of course swimming like a fish and Zion is still a little afraid of the water but has been going under a couple of times without crying. I, of course, am just happy to be out of school..now if we can just figure out how Daddy can have summers off also. Oh, BTW if you see Robert tell him that Ella and Emma are beautiful names for a little girl...ha!
Hopefully now that summer school is over, I'll be able to keep my blog updated. I had every intention of posting at least once a week.
This was an exciting week for our adoption agency and all the waiting families. There were several referrals of boys and girls this week. I caught myself trying to count how many families were waiting for referrals, how many received them, and where we could possible be on the "list". I suddenly realized that I was doing all of this in vain. It doesn't matter if we are #1 or #100. Our time will come and it will be the perfect time. For those of you that don't know, we have a lot of experience with waiting. One thing I've learned about waiting for a child...you can accept the dreaded wait and move forward and make the most of everyday or you can whine, whimper, and live in your misery (which is what I did during our first adoption). Either way...your child will come to you at the right time. I will share our story of how I know that with those of you currently in the process of "waiting". Before Zion came home we were in the process to adopt a baby girl from Guatemala. One of the reasons we chose Guatemala was the quick process..ha! We didn't have to wait but for a few short months for a referral of a one week old beautiful baby girl. The long wait came after we saw that precious picture and accepted her into our hearts as OUR DAUGHTER. We were hoping to have her home around 6 months old. We received monthly updates and pictures for the next 16 months! We hit one bump in the road after another. Looking back we know that was God's way of telling us we were not the right family for her. We watched her grow and change through these updates and pictures. It was terribly agonizing and hard. I traveled to Guatemala to visit her when she was 16 months old. I spent a few days with the sweetest most beautiful baby girl that I had ever seen. The hardest thing I have ever done, was walk away from that orphanage empty handed and broken hearted, not knowing if I would ever be back. We were unable to finish this adoption. Even though our hearts still hurt and I think of her daily, God had another plan for my family and for this precious little girl that we loved dearly. If her adoption process would have went according to our plan we would not have Zion today. We would have never started the process for a child from Korea. I can't imagine our lives without him and can't fathom the blessing we would have missed. We went through some hard times, but good things came from it. We have more faith, more patience, more understanding for things beyond our control, and the most amazing 4 year old son!! If the timing would have been different by 1 week, 1 month, or even 1 year, we wouldn't have the son that was meant to be ours. The timing was perfect even if we couldn't see it! I spent those 16 months in misery...trying to do things MY way and take control of something that I had no control over, which made me more miserable.
This time around, I can honestly say that the wait may not be easier, (and I'm sure I'll catch myself whining and complaining a little) but I won't dwell on the time it takes to bring my child home but rather make the most out of the time that it is taking for God to send us the child we are meant to have. I will play a little more with my children, spend more time with my husband, and pray for our future daughter during the next few months as we wait for him to reveal his plan to us. As I've said before the scripture at the top of this blog has been and hopefully will continue to keep me focused.
I don't want to sound like I am preaching, but I know a lot of families that are struggling with waiting and thought this might be of some help to them. It was always helpful to me to know that I was not alone and others could understand what we were experiencing. The ups and downs of adoption can only truly be understood by someone that has been there.
On a lighter note...the boys and I have been spending a lot of time at the pool while Daddy is working. Parker is of course swimming like a fish and Zion is still a little afraid of the water but has been going under a couple of times without crying. I, of course, am just happy to be out of school..now if we can just figure out how Daddy can have summers off also. Oh, BTW if you see Robert tell him that Ella and Emma are beautiful names for a little girl...ha!
Sunday, June 17, 2007
Officially Waiting
We can finally say that we are on the waiting list. We just heard this past week that we have been placed on the official Dillon waiting list. We know that we have a long wait ahead of us, but it sure feels good to say that we are now officially waiting on a referral. We just hope and pray that the referral times don't increase, but we are prepared that things can change at anytime. We have been discussing names for our little girl and the only thing we agree on is that it is probably a good thing that we have the long wait ahead of us because it will take us that long to agree on a name!! Zion thinks he has the problem solved and has been talking about his sister "Baby Sally" for a while now. (He is a huge Cars fan, and the girl car is named Sally..ha!) It may take the entire time we are waiting on a referral to change his mind..he is a pretty determined little guy.
Saturday, June 2, 2007
Introduction
We have officially decided to join the "blog" world. Actually I have decided to start this blog and although Robert thinks it is a good idea, I'm sure I will be the only one posting anything to it. I really enjoy reading other blogs and thought it would be an easy way to keep family, friends, and others in the adoption process informed about what is happening with our adoption. Things will probably be pretty boring for a while since we are still so early in the process. Hopefully I won't bore everyone too much with our day to day activities in our little world. The good thing about blogs...if you are bored or don't like reading...just log off. We also thought this would be a good way to record thoughts for our future daughter. Someday she can read and it will help show her how much we we wanted her and loved her even before joined our family. So we welcome any comments, as they too will become part of her story.
A little about us for those that don't know us. I am an elementary school teacher and Robert is in sales. We have been married for 17 years. The Lord has blessed us with each other and our two wonderful sons. Parker is 12 and will be going into the 7th grade. Zion is 4 and will be starting preschool this fall at the school where I teach. We adopted Zion from South Korea in September 2003 at 4 months old. We can't imagine our lives without our children. They are true gifts from God. We can't wait to add a little girl to our family!
We started this adoption process in December 2006. We have completed the long, time-consuming paperwork (Pre-application, Application Part 2, Homestudy, Dossier). It has taken us over 5 months to do this and we are still not officially waiting. Our dossier has been sent to the consulate. When they are finished with it, we will officially be on the waiting list. Right now the wait for a little girl is 6 - 9 months for a referral and then 3 - 6 months before we can travel to get her. Of course, all of that can change at any time. We are probably looking at another 12-15 month wait. Sounds like a long time, but from our past adoption experience (more on that in another post) we know that no matter what happens the timing for her to join our family will be perfect! One thing we realize is that we should turn everything over to God. Sometimes easier said than done. The scripture at the top of our blog has become my source of strength over the past 5 years. I decided to put it there so every time I make a post I will see it and be reminded of who is in control. Hopefully, it will keep me from whining too much during this process..ha!
Here is a picture of our boys. It's not the most recent picture, but it is one of my favorites. To see more pictures of our family click on the link "Our Photo Site" on the side. We have posted our pictures there since April of 2004.
A little about us for those that don't know us. I am an elementary school teacher and Robert is in sales. We have been married for 17 years. The Lord has blessed us with each other and our two wonderful sons. Parker is 12 and will be going into the 7th grade. Zion is 4 and will be starting preschool this fall at the school where I teach. We adopted Zion from South Korea in September 2003 at 4 months old. We can't imagine our lives without our children. They are true gifts from God. We can't wait to add a little girl to our family!
We started this adoption process in December 2006. We have completed the long, time-consuming paperwork (Pre-application, Application Part 2, Homestudy, Dossier). It has taken us over 5 months to do this and we are still not officially waiting. Our dossier has been sent to the consulate. When they are finished with it, we will officially be on the waiting list. Right now the wait for a little girl is 6 - 9 months for a referral and then 3 - 6 months before we can travel to get her. Of course, all of that can change at any time. We are probably looking at another 12-15 month wait. Sounds like a long time, but from our past adoption experience (more on that in another post) we know that no matter what happens the timing for her to join our family will be perfect! One thing we realize is that we should turn everything over to God. Sometimes easier said than done. The scripture at the top of our blog has become my source of strength over the past 5 years. I decided to put it there so every time I make a post I will see it and be reminded of who is in control. Hopefully, it will keep me from whining too much during this process..ha!
Here is a picture of our boys. It's not the most recent picture, but it is one of my favorites. To see more pictures of our family click on the link "Our Photo Site" on the side. We have posted our pictures there since April of 2004.
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