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We started this blog to keep friends and family updated during our adoption process. We will post adoption news, fundraiser reminders, and tidbits of our life while we endure the long wait. We hope you enjoy following our journey to our daughter in Vietnam.

Monday, April 28, 2008

Adoption News

Well, we have adoption news...but not the news that I wanted to share. We thought that by now we would be sharing the news of a referral of a beautiful Vietnamese daughter. As we all know, adoption is a very unpredictable thing. A lot has taken place over the last few months with the Vietnam program, too much to write about here. In a nutshell, the Vietnam adoption program will be closing September 1st. What does that mean for us? When we first began this adoption, the wait for a referral was estimated at 6-9 months. As we approached our 9th month the waiting time changed to 12-15 months. September 1, will be during our 14th month. If we haven't received a referral by then, our paperwork will be returned to our agency and our money invested so far lost. It is possible to receive a referral since we are in the top 5 on the waiting list, but there is also the chance that we won't. There are also some more things to consider other than just getting a referral by then. It looks like families that receive their referrals by Sept. 1 will be allowed to complete their adoptions, but there are still so many unknowns. There are lots of new regulations that could slow down the process between referral and travel. There is also the chance that we would not be allowed to finish the process after referral due to problems with the DNA testing and other complications. We've been there done that! I don't ever want to experience that again. I know the pain of falling in love with a child, watching her grow through pictures for 16 months and then not being able to bring her home. I feel as though I'm having a reoccuring nightmare.

So now what??? Our agency is looking into each one of their cases right now on an individual basis in order to present each family with their options. We made it so far only to have our dreams shattered once again. We started this adoption 16 months ago and have been on the official waiting list for over 10 months. Even though we knew from experience that something like this could happen, we really didn't think it would happen to us again. We are sitting on pins and needles right now waiting to here what our options are.

The one thing that we do know for sure will never change in the adoption process is that God is in control. I can't imagine not having the assurance and faith that there is a plan for us. It's what gets me through each day. Maybe our child is not in Vietnam but somewhere else. Maybe our next child is meant to be another boy. Maybe our two boys are the only two children we are meant to have. We just pray that we will know what to do and make the right decision for our family. Please pray for us during this time, but especially pray for the children that will be left in Vietnam with no family of their own.

I'm ending this post with some pictures showing just how much I have to be thankful for...God has truly blessed us. I refuse to let our adoption process bring me down and keep me there. I've shed some tears, been angry, but now I've made my mind up to remain strong, positive, and to enjoy every moment God has given me with my family.


Jessica said...

I am so sorry! My heart goes out to you. I will be praying that the Lord makes your path obvious. Can't wait to see where your next child is going to come from =).

Willis said...

My heart hurts for you. Before we adopted Rocco from Vietnam our domestic adoption plans fell through. The entire agency shut down even though we had gone through mounds of paperwork/money/ time, etc. I remember how low I got during that time. What a long time you've waited. Take hope that God knows the plans He has for you and that He has your best interest in mind. I agree with you. . . the kids are the ones to suffer in the end. It is truly a shame it came to this. You are in my prayers!!
Heather (Rocco's mom)

Heather said...

I have never lost a referral, but I did stare at countless photos of our boys for 16 months prior to traveling to bring them home. It was over a year of prayer, tears, anger, despair, etc. A lost year wondering & waiting for our lives as parents to begin. Now, we are in a similar situation too as we wait to bring our daughter home. Our I600 is at the Embassy, but we are once again at the mercy of the Govts & wait to see how long it will take them to process paperwork on the heels of this horrible news. Please know that you are in our prayers and don't ever give up. Adoption stays in our hearts forever....You have a beautiful family!

Heather M.

Bob said...

Adorable pictures! Thinking of you during this difficult time.
Carla C

DebbieT said...

Lesa, my goodness. I can't believe you're going through this again. I am so so sorry. I know you are so steadfast in your faith.....dig deep and keep hanging in there, my friend. Big hugs from KS, DebbieT

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